Teenage Tantrums

The trouble with teenagers is that they always think they know best; they refuse to listen to their parents (particularly their mothers) when they are talking sense; they can't see the point of keeping their bedrooms tidy (even though they fly into a panic because they can't find what they need two seconds before they need to leave for school); and despite all this they still expect the bank of mum and dad to be open all hours, and taxis to be available 24 / 7 without any prior notice.

The plus side of this frustration is that I spent the most part of this weekend trying to avoid my own truculent teenagers.  I was so annoyed that I didn't feel guilty about spending some time on my own instead of pandering to their every whim and I actually managed to edit two short stories.  

So, the moral of this story is, there is a plus side to everything, even after tearing your hair out!

The Summer of Living Dangerously - Julie Cohen

I read this book on holiday and I was glad that I had the time to read it without the interruptions of daily life.  OK, so I might have been tempted to put it down if my boys had been drawing in the pool but apart from that there was little that could drag me away from the story.  It is a book I have been meaning to read for a long time and the anticipation of it in no way disappointed.

From the moment I started to read I was instantly involved with the main character, Alice.  Alice is trying, and failing, to get on with her life but you can tell from the beginning that she is a woman who has a seriously troubled past, a past which she is trying to block out  - a recipe for disaster in any good story.

Alice writes articles for technical magazines but she is bored and blocked by her writing until she sees an advert for Eversley Hall, where the owners are re-enacting true life events which took place in the house in 1814.  The advert inspires her to pitch an article to a woman’s glossy magazine.  The article leads to meeting the owner of the stately home and that results in her becoming part of the re-enactment team.

Back in 1814 Alice finds her character a much more pleasant person to be as here she doesn’t have to confront her issues in the present.  However life has a habit of getting in the way and as past and present collide, Alice is forced to deal with her problems and decide who she really loves and wants to spend the rest of her life with.  

I’m a big fan of Julie Cohen because she creates characters who walk straight off the page and into your heart and this book is no exception.  She is definitely the kind of writer any wannabe would aspire to become - I am so completely envious of how she makes her characters come alive.

The Summer of Living Dangerously provides a fascinating insight into Regency England whilst also having a heartbreaking story in the present day.  If you have any interest in Jane Austen or stately homes, I challenge you not to enjoy it.

Happy Leap Year

With all my thoughts of improving productivity I was delighted to read an article in February’s Writing Magazine which just about summed up everything I’ve been trying to achieve recently.

But what I hadn’t thought about until I read the article was Leap Year.  Although I had registered somewhere at the back of my mind that this year we had an extra day, the implication of that hadn’t sunk in.

We’ve been given an extra day!  A day we wouldn’t normally have.  A gift to all us writers out there.  When I read it I thought knowing my luck it will fall on a working day, but it’s not, its a Monday.  And although I’ve arranged to meet an old friend for lunch, I’m determined to make the most of my gift for the rest of the day.

Happy Leap Year everyone.

I Have A Plan

Before I went on holiday I was involved in a freelance project which encourages people to be more efficient / productive in their businesses.  The advice struck a chord because much of it could be easily related to becoming a more productive writer.

However, there is a fundamental difference.

If I’m doing freelance work I can quite legitimately turn round to my husband and say - I’ve got to type up a report by such and such a deadline so could you do the tea tonight, take the boys to football (fill in the gaps)?  And he will go off quite happily and get on with it because while he’s doing that, I’m working and earning money.

BUT, I don’t feel that I could sit down at my computer and say “could you do the tea tonight because I want to write?” Now, where is my backbone? Where are my priorities?  I ask myself those questions all the time.  But because I don’t yet earn enough money from my writing it’s viewed as an indulgence, a hobby - something that should be done in my leisure time.  Trouble is by the time I’ve got everything done that needs to be done, it always seems to be bedtime.

Now I can’t entirely blame my family for this because to large extent this is in my own head.  I see things that need to be done, that I feel only I can do, and so I push my writing aside.  

So part one of my plan is to stop doing this.  I need to prioritise my writing.

Whilst I was on holiday I read Kath McGurl’s “Give Up Ironing: A Writer’s Guide to Time Management.

This is an excellent book for anyone struggling with the problems I (probably we all) have.

Now, although the title in the book mentions giving up ironing, it is of course not as simple as this.  Personally, I don’t think I could give up ironing - not that I particularly enjoy it - but I do use it as guilt free time to catch up with any TV programmes I may have recorded.  But, also I think that not ironing and mastering the art of crease free clothes is a particular talent which has so far eluded me.  I do know people who don’t iron but it certainly doesn’t work for school uniforms.  I could always teach the boys to iron their own, but at the moment getting them to remove their clothes from the bedroom floor, all the way across a long, long landing to the laundry bin is a challenge, so I can see endless days of nagging and then having to do it myself at the last minute (glutton for punishment I know).

So, the ironing has to stay. But the real point is to prioritise your writing over something else. Even if I can’t guarantee payment surely I’m allowed 1 hour a day to do the things I want to do. I’ve decided to set a time each day when I will determined to have an hour free just to dedicate to my writing.  I’d love to be able to set the same hour each day but my days are so unpredictable that I don’t think that’s possible.  

I’m not a morning person so setting a goal to get up at silly o’clock is just not realistic as I know that I will just turn over and go back to sleep. So each day I’m going to set a writing time and be determined to stick to it.  

I think I’ve read somewhere that it takes 12 weeks to form a habit - which probably explains why I’ve never been able to achieve a successful exercise habit.  But maybe this year I will be able to achieve a good habit instead of developing bad ones.

Let’s see how it goes.

How Are Your Writing Resolutions Going?

So, its nearing the end of the second month of the year and I’ve decided to question how my New Year resolutions are progressing.

Not too well is the answer, despite a determination at the start of the year to be more productive.

In between Christmas and New Year I had a good trawl through my “catalogue” of stories which resulted in me re-submitting two previously submitted stories to other magazines.  I also edited a first draft of a story I wrote last year, sent it to my writer’s group, re-edited and sent it off. 

I also finished an assignment for an article writing course which has taken me nearly a year to do (oh the shame!) and sent it off.

Finally I researched agents to send my novel to (but not sent it off yet).

I suppose this could be considered to be a pretty productive month - especially as I spent quite a few evenings doing freelance work (in addition to my day job) and looking after family etc, but to be honest I was a bit disappointed that I hadn’t written anything new.

But that was January and February was even more disappointing. My new story was rejected, I still hadn’t written anything new and I hadn’t resubmitted any other stories either.  I did complete another assignment though, so I suppose that was something bearing in mind the length of time it took me to write the last one!

I have my excuses at the ready though - in the middle of February we went on holiday to Lanzarote - so shopping, packing and preparing for going away - even if only for a week - took up quite a bit of my time, especially as eldest son had grown out of everything and needed a new summer wardrobe.  Also his phone broke so I had to replace that at the last minute before going away - just when yet another trip into town is really not needed (the trials of being a mother).

The only good thing was that I sent some of my writing to my kindle so I was able to edit and expand of some of my ideas whilst I was away. I even wrote somethings new - drum role please.  And of course there was lots of lovely reading time (especially as it rained for two days solid) the first rain they have had there since October - would you please?

And now its back to the washing, ironing, cooking and cleaning and generally running around after everyone - but I have renewed my determination and even come up with a plan of how to create some more space in my life for my writing.  Watch this space!

Books, Books, Lovely Books

Every year I make sure I receive some books for Christmas, and if I don't get any, I buy them for myself in the Twixmas time.

This year I received three - I gave the boys a list so I knew I would get want I wanted, and so far I have already read two of them.

The first book was Elizabeth Is Missing by Emma Healey

I heard about this on the Richard and Judy book club and put it straight on my To Be Read list.

The story is told from the point of view of Maud, who is an elderly lady suffering from memory loss.  Throughout the book we see what's its like to be unable to remember where you put things, what you are doing half way through doing it, and sometimes even recognising family.  A consistent thread in the book is that Maud is troubled that her friend Elizabeth is missing, despite the fact that everyone around her tells her she is not.  Whilst Maud is trying to find her friend, the narrative dips back into Maud's past when her own sister disappeared as a young wife.  

The two mysteries, interspersed with Maud's problems, are cleverly told and leads to a satisfying and surprising ending.  I wouldn't say this was an easy read, as inside Maud's mind was often a terrifying place to be, especially when you relate it to your own parents or indeed the prospect of your own future. It also gives a great insight into  the frustrations experienced by the carers of those suffering from dementia. 

Like I say, not an easy read, but a worthwhile one.

The second book I read over the Christmas period was The Cake Shop in the Garden by Carole Matthews.

As ever, Carole provides a delightful read with characters you instantly fall in love with.

The main character is Fay who has given up her job to look after her mother who a while ago took to her bed and now refuses to get out of it.  Although there was nothing much wrong with her mother when she first "became ill", years of being in bed have taken their toll on her health and she depends on Fay to provide her with her every need.

The house they live in is by a canal and Fay's dad, who died, loved his narrow boat.  Fay would like to be able to restore it to its former glory but having given up her job to look after her mother, she can't afford to.  Instead she sells cakes from her garden to make ends meet.  In addition, she supports her sister who lives in New York and is involved in a disastrous relationship with a married man, and quite often ends up giving her money that she can barely afford.

As ever in Carole's books there is a love interest in the form of Danny.  Of course the path to true love never runs smooth and this is particularly so for Fay and Danny.  There are many believable twists and turns through the course of the book and certain heartbreak for Fay.  But will Fay and Danny ever get together? You'll have to read it to find out.

Another beautiful read from Carole with the bonus feature of lots of cake!

What good books have you read recently?

Happy Birthday!

Today is my youngest son's birthday.

A horrible time to have a birthday, when everyone is fed up with the Christmas celebrations and just wants to get back to normal.

Usually his birthday falls on the first day back at school and the weather is horrible.

Poor thing. 

He was due on Christmas Eve but hung on all the way through Christmas and New Year, so in many ways he's only got himself to blame.

So, twelve years ago this little angel popped into my life.

And this is him now

Yes, he does look like butter wouldn't melt in his mouth, but I can assure you that looks can be deceptive and he can be a real challenge at times.

But I love him to bits and hope he enjoys his birthday despite the rotten time of year.

Love you Georgie!